love skeptics

ok.. this is called tough love, mainly because it's advise for the lazy, although caring folks:

1) you're loved. if you're not loved by those around you, you're loved by someone out there. it's love that fuels a fireman's innate desire to save ALL victims to the best of their human capabilities.

2) you're not alone, you're simply just.. not with anyone. yes, even those around you whom you know are supposed to love you, but you don't see it or feel it. They, too, probably love you, but don't know how to show that they do in the manner that you need to be shown in order for you to process their emotional intentions. when you get upset and feel alone, you're not unloved, you're just simply not feeling love. it's there.

3) those who make you suffer.. are probably suffering themselves. people whom are suffering inside tend to make others suffer, too, because they have no other way to feel better other than to inflict pain on others to distract the pain from them. they may love you, but they're suffering inside so much that they don't even have time to show their love for you.

4) it takes a strong catastrophe to wake people up. this is normal, and our bodies respond to these wake up calls because that's what they are.. they're triggers. when someone attempts suicide after years of abuse, and they fail... it brings light to the situation.. and brings them all closer. Sometimes people don't wake up, sometimes you are still lonely after the attempt, but that doesn't mean you go ahead and finish the deed. It doesn't take the end of your life to make a statement. Often, the biggest statement is walking away, or forcing up a smile..

5) what do you do when you can't walk away? the only thing you can do: defend your right to be loved... defend your right to love.. how do you do this? that could mean anything... well, you're right, it could mean anything, but you know what I've come to learn? Defending your right to be alive begins with loving yourself. everything else falls into place naturally.

6) love isn't definable. no two people have the same idea of what love this.. this gets tricky, but we all know that love makes us happy. We are a special race of sentient beings.. troubled with a physical, autonomous nervous system.. and a more complex emotional system which can override it often. why is it that we have these emotions? why do we need to be loved? well, it's the same reason that cows need to be social. it makes them happy. it produces endorphins which only could give them the fullest that life has to offer. we thrive on love because our physiology depends on it.. our physical health, our survival.. it depends on love, it depends on being loved, it depends on expressing love.

7) love is universal. love is understood between any animal on this planet. we all understand and process love. but why is it so universal? why is a smile understood over any language in the world? well, because smiling in primal. it is simple. smiling literally decreases stress and hormones, smiling lowers your heart rate, smiling is a form of love, and smiling makes your body feel better. I tell a person who doesn't think that love exists if they can smile.. if they can get any enjoyment out of anything.. even someone that they hate falling or a negative thing happening to them. they will tell me that they can at least smile.. and I get them thinking about it... I ask them how they feel when they smile... if those bad thoughts creep in.. if their mind is focusing on hatred... they say no, because it's not. It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile.

8) when the ones who love us hurt us.. its the only way they know how to express their love.. because they don't know how to love. when you grow up around violence, lack of love, lack of sharing emotions, when you grow up around abuse... you forget what love is, begin to think it doesn't exist. You grow cold and blame God because he made a person you know that should love you treat you like crap.. Well, they're going through their own problems too. After years of abuse from my dad, I have learned that he's loved me all along, even though he did abuse me. I've come to realize that he never meant to hurt me, but it just happened... and he had always regretted it. Even though it's painful, and I want to hate him, I can't, because I realize that he was trying his best, even though his best wasn't grand at all. It was his intention, rather his action, that made me realize he loved me. Sometimes, people hurt the ones they love because they don't even realize that they're hurting them... until something crazy happens, or until the wake up call comes, if it does.

9) and you don't have to stick around to wait for that call. you don't have to sit and take the abuse until that person grows up... until they're taught... remove yourself, get away.. and find your strength. stand up and proclaim, "You will no longer hurt me. I love myself" and take yourself from that person.... if they loved you, they wouldn't be hurting you. If they do love you, and they just can't help but hurt you.. then leave, because it's not your place to be weighed down by someone like that. Life will teach them. If you can't leave... like with a parent abusing you.. there is help.. there are always people out there who want to help you, want to talk to you, want to love you... because there are good people out there... some people might think that there can't be any good in the world if their parents are so abusive and hateful... so non-loving...

10) People grow hateful, cynical, cold... cold because the world is cold to them.. they think that love doesn't exist because they don't see love within their own lives... they grow envious of those who display love.. those who claim to be touched by it. Well, I can assure you that you know love, in some way, shape, or form, love is present in you.. or you'd be dead.... and well, some people do die because like I said, love makes you well, love regulates the body to be healthy, alive, active.... hatred and negative emotions like depression and anxiety and fear--they deregulate the body... stress, hormones, bipolarism,, mood swings, elevated blood pressure, bad cholesterol, obesity.... these are all products of hatred. If love doesn't exist, why is it so prevalent and effective on our lives?

11) maybe you need to change your personal lifestyle... if not your environment. maybe it's the food you eat that's making you unable to feel love... eat better, drink more water, don't eat crappy food... if you're making your body crappy, how can you expect your body to treat your well back? How can your body process love and if you're not respecting and loving your body in return?

12) And the great observer: you see evil, peril, misfortune, plague, sickness, war, famine, drought, despair, disease, injustice, murder, violence, anger, hatred, corruption, crime, devastation, immortality, devilry, pain, weakness, fear, desolation, destruction, chaos, discord, discontent, poverty... you wonder, how can the world be good? how can we be a loving race, so fixed on love, and yet there exists so much bad in the world? If there is love.. why is there hate? and that is the question, dear skeptic, why is there hate, if there is love? And so we're tempted to look back into religion, moral ethics, and human constructs of good vs. evil. We're taught that love prevails over evil... but we know that reality, that isn't always the case.

People are waking up, and realizing that the old systems of the world of flawed, and full of corruption and decline. People are beginning to question, and I challenge all to stay with the inquisitiveness that they are beginning to wake up to. Question, for that is how the revolution happens. People are beginning to question even the sanctity and holiness of all that is love... and I challenge the argument, for that is a light bulb, a neurological connection that will take them on a path of discovery--and that, my friends, is how the world becomes a better place.. little thinkers running around like ants, doing their own things, discovering the world.

People always search for a definition of love, they always want to say that love is this or that... many say it doesn't exist, but I always say that

Love is the gravity of human cognizance.